OpenSystemsDevelopment / qpdf

Use get() and use_count() instead. Add #define
NO_POINTERHOLDER_DEPRECATION to remove deprecation markers for these
only.

This commit also removes all deprecated PointerHolder API calls from
qpdf's code except in PointerHolder's test suite, which must continue
to test the deprecated APIs.

This change works around STL problems with Embarcadero C++ Builder
version 10.2, but std::vector is more common than std::list in qpdf,
and this is a relatively new API, so an API change is tolerable.

Thanks to Thorsten Schöning <6223655+ams-tschoening@users.noreply.github.com>
for the fix.